I am all about debunking the myth that vaginas get loose from a lot of penetrative vaginal sex and the concept that vaginas being “loose” is a negative trait that lessens the person’s worth.
BUT something I often see articulated along with this debunking is the idea that if someone with a vagina is “tight” while they’re having penetrative vaginal sex they’re “faking it,” and not really aroused
THIS IS NOT NECESSARILY TRUE
different vaginas have different elasticity! different vaginas respond differently to the same stimuli! some vaginas expand more than others AND some vaginas expand less than others! some vaginas have more natural lubrication and some vaginas have less! and all of that variety is great!
if you sense that your partner isn’t enjoying sex or they aren’t physically responding the way you expect, it never hurts to gently check in and see if they’re alright & if you could be improving their experience
but don’t assume anyone’s level of enjoyment of sex based solely on what their body is doing.
In an effort to both allocate space for and document the existence of masculine women, photographer Meg Allen created a powerful series of portraits for an exhibit at Cafe Gabriela in Oakland, Calif.
Entitled BUTCH, Allen’s series not only represents genderqueer women for a broader, heteronormative audience, but reaffirms butch identity within the queer community at a time when “butch flight,” or gender transitioning, is arguably becoming more and more commonplace. It is, as Allen says on her website, “an homage to the bull-daggers and female husbands before me, and to the young studs, gender queers and bois who continue to bloom into the present.”
These are some good looking folks
This is all I have ever wanted to see. My butch friends may sometimes get “Why don’t you just become a man?” in the same way folks would tell me “Why don’t you just be a butch lesbian?” Because masculinity and gender identity are two totally separate bubbles, that for some become a venn diagram, and for others, coexist peacefully inside of us.
Two things can exist independently, and coexist peacefully. Gender identity and masculinity/femininity/androgyny.
dorky thing I do when I wanna cheer myself up: watch videos of theme park rides
new excellent term for genitals that was suggested by someone in tonight’s safer sex workshop: the cat
I really really like it